Emotions- Our Building and Destruction Materials

Emotions play such an important role in our lives- far more than most people realize. Much has been written about the ways emotions help us create the life we desire. If you have a goal in mind that you want to accomplish, you can envision yourself achieving your desired outcome mentally, and then concentrate on the feeling that accompanies that outcome. It is the feeling of the emotions behind the visual that actually creates it in our reality. The stronger the feeling, the better the outcome for us. So seeing yourself in the moment, attaining your goal with ease, and being able to feel how you would actually feel in that moment, gives your dream the momentum needed to become your reality.

Emotions aren’t necessarily the topic of choice for many people. You want a topic that is avoided frequently? Emotions! The “how do you feel” question-now there’s a way to clear a room! If they are so important, why do we run from them?

In many households emotions weren’t a topic that was discussed when growing up. Children have so many of them just spilling out all over the place! If they are taught that what they are feeling isn’t something that we talk about, they will stifle those emotions and have many issues as teenagers and adults. I have seen children who have been labeled with things like ADD, when in reality, they are just so extremely frustrated because they have no words to describe the intensity of what they are feeling inside. The actions and behaviors they exhibit are their emotions trying to find a release. When working with the parents on this, and giving them “homework” to do with their child surrounding emotions, I have found that the parents, themselves, have not dealt with their own emotions, and feel uncomfortable doing this with their children. I never see them again. Just think of what it would do for all of them to work on this together!

Understanding the emotions we are feeling and being able to describe them to others is an important skill set to have in life. It helps us communicate clearly and diminishes misunderstandings. It also helps us gain clarity for ourselves about what we desire for ourselves, and what we will not tolerate.

How can they do all of that?

Let’s find out!

February is the month ruled by Love, with the celebration of Valentine’s Day. Love is such a wonderful emotion! How does love make you feel? Where do you feel it in your body?


Did that question make you pause?

It might have, and that’s ok. To help you, let me ask you an easier one to identify: Where do you feel anger in your body? What changes happen to your body when you experience anger? Anger is by far the easiest emotion to do this with. Do you feel it in your gut? It is closer to a tightening in your chest? Do your shoulders tense? Do you clench your fists? Does your breathing pattern change at all? If so, how? What happens to you physically when you experience anger?

Knowing where you physically experience any of your emotions will help you on a daily basis. You see the heart feels the “pulse” of your emotions long before it registers in your brain. Awareness of your body and how it is doing is so important in light of that information. If you start feeling tightness in your chest, and you become aware of it, you can pause and think about what emotions you feel there. If you have sensations where you experience anger or fear, you can stop and take stock of what is beginning to show up in your body. What is it that is making you angry or afraid? If you can catch it at this early stage, you can diffuse it by understanding what’s going on long before it explodes. It helps you know yourself more deeply and feel more in control of your life. It takes some practice, but it is well worth the time and effort!

If you would like help doing this, or need to talk, our life coaching would be a great place to start!